Nobody owes you anything (not aimed @ you t97 - but the whole freaking planet...) There has been plenty of times where I have been tempted to listen to that wretched, antisocial voice in my head and go ready-fire-aim but have been glad I didn't. I'm not riding someone elses' bus to know what is going on in their life and I really don't want to either(not being dismissive but I've got my own bus ticket thanks). Yeah APram50 can post a pic of an engine in his truck and unless it's a radically different build you're not gonna see anything externally anomalous.
Give the dude a chance